Lesson Of The Day: As An Adult, I Can't Tell You.....

Keeping It Real: I can't tell you, things last forever, because they don't. I can't tell you, everything will be okay, because, sometimes it won't. I can't tell you, to listen, because then you don't hear. I can't tell you when to speak, because then you lose your voice. I can't tell you, to be like me, because you will be a copy and not original. I can't tell you, what to see, because then you look with eyes wide shut. I can't tell you, how to behave, because, then you act a damn fool! Ya Dig?...

Lesson Of The Day: A Dumb Ass Woman

Keeping It Real: What woman TAKES better care of her MAN'S children but not her own?, a dumb ass woman! What woman allows her man to rip and run but every time she leaves, she has to say where she is going, how long she will be gone, who is going with her and give the mileage on her car?, a dumb ass woman! What woman will be in a relationship for years & finds out her man is leaving her for another woman & tell you, that you wasn't nothing but a fuck buddy and you still take his calls?, a dumb ass woman! What woman dates a BIG BALLER but worries about her electric being turned off?, a dumb ass woman! What woman moves in with her boyfriend BUT he is staying with MOM?, a dumb ass woman! What woman that has been dating a RICH and or famous guy and she still LOOKS broke down?, a dumb ass woman! What woman KNOWINGLY allows her children to have sex in her house, smoke weed in her house, drink underage in her house and let her daughter's boyfriend move in and or spend the night?, she ain't dumb, she is trifling! Ya Dig?...

Lesson Of The Day: Say No To Drama....

Keeping It Real: Don't entertain or indulge in other people's DRAMA, HATRED, IGNORANCE & GOSSIP, because when you do, it ONLY fuels them to say and or do more BUT WITHOUT an audience, their ratings will be low, next to none and or nil! Ya Dig?..

 

Lesson Of The Day: Directions To My Spiritual Father's House...

Keeping It Real: Make a right onto Believeth Blvd. Keep straight and go thru the Green Light, which is Jesus Christ. From there you must turn onto the Bridge of Faith, which is over Troubled Waters. When you get off the bridge make a right turn and keep straight. You are on the King's Highway- Heavenly Bound. Keep going for three miles: One for the Father, One for the Son and one for the Holy Ghost. Then exit off onto Grace Blvd. From there make a Right Turn on Gospel Lane. Keep straight and then make another Right Turn on Prayer Blvd. As you go on your way, Yield Not to the traffic on Temptation Ave. Also avoid Sin Street because it is a Dead End. Pass up Envy Drive and Must Have Avenue. Also pass Hypocrisy Street, Gossiping Lane and Backbiting Blvd. You do have to go down Long Suffering Lane, Persecution Blvd, Trials and Tribulations Ave. But that's alright, because Victory Blvd is straight ahead and once you see the Gold Pavement, with Big Billowy Clouds & The Pearly Gates....Smile, You Are At My Father's House! Be Blessed Ya Dig?...

 

Lesson Of The Day: Physical, Mental & Verbal Abuse

Keeping It Real: When you KNOW better, you do better, right? I don't feel sorry for NONE of those heffas or any other GROWN ass woman in REAL LIFE that SEES this type of mess manifesting and STILL tries to make excuses like the SHIT is going to get better. ITS NOT!! Wake your ass up NOW!! ESPECIALLY if you have children!

Your sons will learn to be abusers and your daughters will think its OK to be victims! SOMETIMES, this isn't true, but what REAL MOTHER even takes that chance?!  

I learned at NINETEEN that a man shouldn't control your life and treat you like a damn dog that they own AND hate!! I only had to learn it ONCE!! Sure I had to move into the projects but look where I am NOW!! Its all by the Grace of God who just so happened to Bless me with the common sense that some women CHOOSE to ignore! 

Why do I say CHOOSE to ignore?! Because He didn't give this common sense to ONLY me!! ALL women have it, some just don't USE it! And has anyone noticed that the man ALWAYS does whatever the HELL he wants and the woman STILL lets him control HER life?! WAKE UP!! 


If I hadn't been there and CONQUERED that, I wouldn't have anything to say. Ya Dig?

Happy Birthday Ashyla, My Beautiful GrandDaughter

Happy 4th Birthday, Ashyla, Nano Loves You....

Lesson Of The Day: How People Perceive You....

Keeping It Real: Being concerned about public opinion can bring you much grief and misery, sometimes, even shorten your life. So be yourself and enjoy life. Stop worrying about what another person thinks of you and you'll be a lot happier and live longer! Say what I say, FUCK 'em! Ya Dig?...

Lesson Of The Day: Me & My Family Wishes You A Happy Thanksgiving

Keeping It Real: From Me & Mine To You And Yours.....Have A Safe, Plentiful, Thankful & Blessed Holiday..Ya Dig?...  

 

Lesson Of The Day: Light vs Dark vs Brown Skin People

Keeping It Real: If you think like this, you have what I call a slave mentality and BOTTOMLINE: YOU ARE STILL BLACK! Dummy! Enough said! Ya Dig?..

Lesson Of The Day: Traits Of A Good Man....

Keeping It Real: A good man is polite enough to open a door, smart enough to open a conversation, secure enough to open his mind, cares enough to hear what you said, eyes open enough so he really sees where you are coming from & loving enough to open his heart.Ya Dig?...

Lesson Of The Day: Single Friends & Married Couples

Keeping It Real: I almost always can find a topic from some ish that a person has said and or did from the internet! I am a Twitterer and Tyrese the singer/movie star tweeted that married folks... "Be careful hangin out with single friend.. Their advice may lead u to being single like them!!!" I have to disagree with him! 

Why is that MOST MEN always have a problem with their ladies, single friends? Most women I know personally and over the internet always say my man don't want me hanging with my single friends? Why don't the woman say that?  Most men are hounds and almost always try to impress their friends with I AM A BIG MAN! So why shouldn't the women say that about their single friends?

If you allow yourself to get caught up in something, how can that be blamed on a single friend and NOT  the person who did it? If you allow a person married or single to give you advice about your relationship and you run with it, who is that on? What does it say about the man and your relationship if your man do not want you around single friends? Does he TRUST you? He can't, if he is worried that you being with your single friend is going to lead you astray! Sometimes, that single friend is who your man HAS HIS EYE on too and could be why he doesn't want her around! 

I was married for 24 years and it wasn't my single friends giving me advice that made me get a divorce, it was HIM!!! 9 out of 10, that single FRIEND will be there for you, through thick and thin and also be there when the chips are down too! Ya Dig?..

Lesson Of The Day: Call On God....

Keeping It Real: So often when we encounter storms in our lives, we panic! We find ourselves venting and calling our friends and others crying and seeking sympathy! 

I, now believe that when these storms come or when we see them coming we need to take that frustration and conversation to God, by getting on our prayer knees instead of posting on Facebook, Myspace & other sites or complaining to our friends! 

God answers prayers! 

Friends comfort, lick wounds and even keep it real but God answers prayers! God solves problems and has the real answers!!! 

I like to encourage everybody to stop and start praying, instead of stopping and going to man. Stop and pray instead of calling and complaining! He will answer your prayers and calm your storm on his time! Amen Ya Dig?..

Lesson Of The Day: Money....

Keeping It Real: Money will make some people think they are infallible & bigger than Thou. Some become so arrogant, disrespectful, unattainable, obnoxious & downright rude that they need a reality check, some need a swift kick in the ass back to reality, some need to be brought back to earth and then SOME need to be woke the hell up! It is the root of ALL evil...Ya Dig?

Lesson Of The Day: I Didn't Say Or Do That...

Keeping It Real: When you use the Uerkel tag & the same goes for, it wasn't me, I wasn't there, I didn't do that! Why waste x amount of energy going back and forth about what you supposedly didn't say and or do? 

I can understand getting upset because you are being lied on BUT to get so angry and pissed off is proving what? Just say I DIDN'T and keep it moving! 

My opinion, a person who continues to fuel the fire at their OWN expense, too me, is saying, I did it BUT I didn't expect to hear it again or be found out! Ya feel me? 

In the long run, ACTIONS SPEAK LOUDER THAN WORDS, BULLSHIT TALKS AND TIME ALWAYS & I MEAN ALWAYS, SPEAK VOLUMES!  Yeah, I know it's, Time will tell! Ya Dig?...

Lesson Of The Day: Shacking Up....

Keeping It Real: Is it ok to shack up? How old is too old to shack up? Is there an age limit to shacking up? When is it wrong to shack up? 

If he/she is already living with somebody, then it is clearly wrong to shack up with this person! If the person you are shacking up with LIVES with their MOTHER, it is clearly wrong to shack up! How do you have SOME good sex, if their mother is only a door away? LOL 

How long do you shack up? Is there a time limit on when he asks you to marry him?, or do you anticipate getting a ring, since you already living as married folks! 

Why do MOST women say after living with a man for over 5 years, marriage is only a PIECE OF PAPER? LIE!!! That is what the man has embedded in her mind as to her constant request of: when we getting married? He say, we already married, you my wife, we been LIVING TOGETHER for x amount of years, you wearing my engagement ring & some don't even get the engagement ring, so again, I ask, is it ok to shack up? 

Ladies, beware, after more than 5 years of living together and he gives you a ring and says it is a FRIENDSHIP ring, after 5 years.......PACK YOUR SHIT & GO! Ya Dig?...     

Lesson Of The Day: Open Letter To Idris Elba

Keeping It Real: One of my FAVORITE celebrities! He is THE JACK of all TRADES and one of the HARDEST working celeb in his field!

Here goes:  My Dearest Idris,

The way you have portrayed your many characters had me simmering for years & I would just boil over at the mention of your name!! 


My Driis passion started with your character Stringer Bell.  Since the 1st day I watched The Wire and saw how you made the role Stringer Bell come to life, I was hooked!!  As you starred in other roles you nailed each and every one, some were in depth and fast, others were slow and steady but each one was so satisfying. I loved watching you be the tough all about business brother from the hood in The Wire. Sometimes In April made ME destined for the motherland! Not only did you make me yearn for it, but you brought me with you on this journey to the other side of the world. Enlightening and filling me with the knowledge of the genocide that had taken place in this country!! 

Why wouldn't I feel protected and safe with you leading the way and me hypnotized by the callous way you raise both eyebrows to the rubbing and twirling of your thumb in a circular motion against your 2 forefingers. I told you, I was HOOKED and a fan yet far from, very far from, a groupie!


Your London flavor and style says cool, accent, funky attire and all!! Confidence, arrogance, intensity, honesty, humor, integrity and generosity are some of the vibes I have picked up on you. I CAN SAY PLAIN AND SIMPLE "YOU ARE DOING THINGS and not BAD on the eyes as well!

As if I weren't already a captive audience to The Wire series because of Stringer Bell, my climax came when I heard your English accent during the interview of the making of Sometimes In April.  I had no way of knowing that after watching you as Stringer Bell that this would be the 1st of many dates and that the attractions ( Stringer In Wire 1,2, & 3, Smitty in Soul Food, Paul in Girlfriends, Augustyn in Sometimes in April, Rev C. Frank in The Gospel, Monty in Daddy's Little Girls, and the list goes on) like you would get better and bigger each time. I will be waiting in line to get my tickets for movies you have coming out now & forever.  I'll be sitting in the middle row, 4 rows from the front!

It's all about Idris Elba NOW and BabyLuv, you stroke my imagination from every angle possible, hitting my cinematic sweet spot just so.  As a jack of all trades (Father, Music Artist, Rapper, Photographer, Producer, Son and DJ ) and most importantly your acting skills have made me holler with deep laughter, boo-hoo cry, cringe, think and most definitely swoon!!

You are strong and can withstand the elements, overcome the hard knocks & take judgments. You radiate when something is going on within you. It makes you shine with confidence and self-awareness, because it reaches way down and ignites your natural glow!!

Much Love, Congrats & Good Luck...You Already KNOW,  I got your BACK!!!

So tell me WHY would you let FOLKS RUN YOU OFF Twitter? Ya Dig?....

Lesson Of The Day: Flipping The Script On A Racist....

Keeping It Real: I was playing an online game and it involved chatting with other players while you played! This guy types in the chat box that Obama is a Porch monkey, now, I clearly and most definitely honor and love OUR president, so I say, well at least he HAS a house with a porch! He aint living in a trailer! He says Obama sucks, I say, I'm sure you, me and everybody in this game room has sucked something, ie: straws, lemons, mints! At this point, other gamers are laughing at him, so he says, well Blacks are stupid and violent and I say all Blacks are not stupid & violent, just like all whites are NOT smart and tamed and you have clearly proven that in here today! He signed off...LOL Ya Dig?...

Lesson Of The Day: Hear Me Roar...

Keeping It Real: Yes, I am woman. I push doors that clearly say PULL. I laugh harder when I try to explain why I'm laughing. I walk into a room and forget why I was there. I count on my fingers in math. I hide the pain from my loved ones more than what they think. I say it is a long story, when it really is not, just to get out of having to tell it. I cry a lot more than you think I do. I care about people who don't care about me. I am strong because I have to be, not because I want to be. I listen to you, even when you don't listen to me. And a hug will always help. Yes, I am woman!!!!!Hear ME ROAR! Ya Dig?...

Lesson Of The Day: My Prayer

Keeping It Real: Heavenly Father, most Gracious and Loving God, I Pray to You that You abundantly Bless my family and me. I know that You recognize, that a family is more than just a mother, father, sister, brother, husband, wife, children, cousins, aunts & uncles but all who believe and trust in You. Father, I send up a prayer request for Blessings for not only me & mine but for every person who reads this and that the Power of joined prayer by those who believe and trust in You is more powerful than anything. I thank You in advance for Your Blessings. Amen...Ya Dig?..

Lesson Of The Day: He Who Is Without Sin, Throw The 1st Stone!

Keeping It Real: I'll WAIT!!! Ya Dig?...

Lesson Of The Day: Sexual Harassment

Keeping It Real: Sexual harassment, is intimidation, bullying or coercion of a sexual nature, or the unwelcome or inappropriate promise of rewards in exchange for sexual favors. 


Herman Cain is under fire for this very charge but my thing is, why wait 10 years to bring charges against him? OK, I understand, he is in the LIMELIGHT, so now these women want their 15 minutes of FAME! 10 years and what does it say about the women IF they were harassed that they would take money instead of pressing charges? Now they want to press charges! mmmm hmmmm Ya Dig?

Lesson Of The Day: BasketBall Wives L.A. 11/07/2011

Keeping It Real: Jackie is losing it! I am sure while Doug was sitting at that table agreeing with his wife because he is supposed to have her back BUT after watching the events unfold, I know he is saying what the hell? Doug has to know his wife is a snake. 

Jackie is flipping out! She is not telling the truth and why would all the women just say she said this and that and she didn't? Most of what she was doing & saying was broadcasted, will she be back for next years series? 

Did you all see how she brought Malaysia into the convo and then totally flipped and said I wasn't talking to you? Because she saw that Malaysia wasn't a punk, hell, she should have known that when she gave Laurie the beatdown!  

She is putting their shit on BLAST too! Did Gloria sleep with someone else? Y'all see, she never, batted an eye, blinked and or flinched when Jackie said that! Good girl, Gloria! LOL I know some are saying they do not want the drama, but why do they let her talk all that shit and just say nothing? When she is not around, Imani has a lot to say but in her presence, she is like a damn oyster trying to cling onto its pearl! Ya Dig?...

Lesson Of The Day: Real Housewives Of Atl 11/06/2011

Keeping It Real: Nene Leakes is in FULL EFFECT!! Somebody tell me, why she acts like a damn fool when she is on Bravo station but when she gets to the prime channel NBC, she was all mellowed out? What?, does she think it is ok to act a fool in front of Black people but white folks gets a pass from her BULLYING ass? In all honesty, sometimes I think Nene is psychotic! Why did she tell Sheree' that she has the problem and not her? I truly believe Nene went behind her back and said what dude said she did! Why?, because she kept on over talking him and then instead of trying to resolve it, SHE LEAVES!! hahahahahaha Those tears she were shedding, was straight BS!! How in the hell are you helping your grown ass son by buying him a car? ENABLER!!!!

Sheree told Nene right and I truly believe that Sheree would give Nene a run for her money! She aint all GLAM, y'all! SHE IS FROM CLEVELAND and I know those women do not play! They will get in your ass! LOL Like she said, choke her, put your hands around her neck! Sorry, Sheree, those tactics are saved for the women she know she has a handle on! LOL She don't want none! Please believe!


And can somebody please TELL ME WHY Kim is on this show? 1st of all, she is WHITE and is not MARRIED!! All the other Housewife shows they have, the only integrated one is ATL! Yeah, I know, there was the DC one, but it has been canceled and BH, Orange, NJ and the rest have ONLY white women, why couldn't they have stuck her ass on one of them shows? WRONG, but that's Bravo for ya!! Ya Dig?...

Lesson Of The Day: Condoms....

Keeping It Real: A condom is a barrier device most commonly used during sexual intercourse to reduce the probability of PREGNANCY and spreading SEXUALLY TRANSMITTED DISEASES (STD).  It is put on a man's erect PENIS and physically blocks ejaculated semen from entering the body of a sexual partner.

Why are SO many women and men NOT using this device? Justin Bieber is on the news with a supposed love child! Idris Elba, one of my favorite entertainers was recently MISLED into believing he fathered a child by a Billie Jean! Why are people and ESPECIALLY celebrities NOT using the very thing that not only can prevent getting a person pregnant BUT ALSO MIGHT SAVE YOUR DAMN LIFE?


No glove, no love, no latex NO SEX! They have diseases that you can carry around for the rest of your life LIKE LUGGAGE! Ya Dig?...

Lesson Of The Day: Girl vs. Woman

Keeping It Real: Girls want to control the man in their life. Grown Women know that if he's truly hers, he doesn't need controlling. Girls check you for not calling them. Grown women are too busy to realize you hadn't. Girls are afraid to be alone. Grown women revel in it using it as a time for personal growth. Girls ignore the good guys. Grown women ignore the bad guys. Girls make you come home. Grown women make you want to come home. Girls leave their schedule wide-open and wait for a guy to call and make plans. Grown women make their own plans and nicely tell the guy to get in where he fit in. Girls worry about not being pretty and or good enough for their man. Grown women know that they are pretty and good enough for any man. Girls try to monopolize all their man's time (i.e., don't want him hanging with his friends). Grown women realize that a lil' bit of space makes the 'together time' even more special-and goes to kick it with her own friends. Girls think a guy crying is weak. Grown women offer their shoulder and a tissue. Girls want to be spoiled and 'tell' their man so. Grown women 'show' him and make him comfortable enough to reciprocate without fear of losing his 'manhood'. Girls get hurt by one man and make all men pay for it. Grown women know that was just one man. Girls fall in love and chase aimlessly after the object of their affection, ignoring all 'signs'. Grown women know that sometimes the one you love, don't always love you back-and move on, without bitterness. Girls will read this and get an attitude. Grown women will read this and pass it on to other Grown women and their male friends! Time for the Big Girl Panties, put them on! Ya Dig?...

Lesson Of The Day: My Prayer For You Today......

Keeping It Real: The eyes beholding this message shall not behold evil, the hands that will send this message to others shall not labor in vain, the mouth saying Amen  to this prayer shall laugh forever. I want you to remain in God's love. Have a lovely journey of life! Trust in the Lord with all your heart and He will never fail you because He is Awesome! Father God, deliver the person reading this right now from debt and debt burdens. Release your Godly wisdom that I may be a good steward over all that You have given me Father, for I know how wonderful and mighty You are and how if we just obey You and walk in Your Word and have the faith of a mustard seed that You will pour out blessings. I thank You now Lord for the recent blessings I have received and for the blessings yet to come because I know You are not done with me yet. In Jesus name, I pray, Amen...Ya Dig?

Lesson Of The Day: Stronger Than You Think.....

Keeping It Real: I learned you have to HURT in order to KNOW pain, FALL in order to Get Back Up, LOSE in order to GAIN, Plant some seeds in order to Grow, Listen before you speak, Know before you say it, because you never know how Strong you are until being Strong is the only option you have! Ya Dig?...

Lesson Of The Day: To You.....

Keeping It Real: You know what's beautiful? Read the FIRST word of the question, again. Ya Dig?...

Lesson Of The Day: BasketBall Wives L.A. 10/31/2011

Keeping It Real: JACKIE is so full of shit! She is messy and a shit starter! Did I say, Jackie is full of shit? I cannot believe she has gotten her high seditty ass on national TV and made a mockery of herself, the women she is around and her hubby! Am I missing something?, isn't Doug, BLACK? What is with this white is right crap? I cannot believe how this series is unfolding! She is what you call a 2 faced, lying ass hoodrat, wannabe white, high seditty ass KNEEGROW! OK!!! She is so paranoid, wanting to know what was said, WATCH THE DAMN SHOW like us, heffa, because you know, you are the ROOT of all the bad things being said! Trifling ass!! Did I mention she is full of bullshit? Another thing with her classless ass, it is converse, not conversate and WHEN DID PIG become CHICKEN? Big ass pig LAID out on the table and you said, you thought it was chicken? Pork tastes nothing like damn chicken!  Mmmm hmmmm

Imani, I am so glad you FINALLY talked with Laurie. How dare you FOLLOW the LEADER! Wow, grow a mind, it is the best thing to do!


Where is Malaysia's husband? We have seen everybody that has a partner but her hubby! She is losing her weight, nicely! GO girl!!!


Laurie, I have to agree with Draya, if you do not like her, quit faking the funk! No more phony ass hugs, smiles, how you doing shit! She knows it, WE KNOW it, so act like you know it! OK!! Ya Dig?...

Lesson Of The Day: The Rain...

Keeping It Real: Sometimes you have to walk IN THE rain, to weather the storm! How can you go through life issues?, if ya never got wet! Ya Dig?..

Lesson Of The Day: Iron Chef America, Super Chefs

Keeping It Real: They are searching for a NEW Iron Chef for the Food Network Channel! Let's see, they have Mario Batali, Bobby Flay, Marc Forgione, Jose Garces, Masaharu Morimoto, Wolfgang Puck, Michael Symon & Cat Cora, all of whom are NON Black and GREAT CHEFS!  

What is missing out of this equation? = Marcus Samuelsson, one of the best Black Chefs, who also won the Top Chef Masters show & the James Beard award! Come on Iron Chef America, it is time to add your 1st Black Iron Chef to the roster! Ya Dig?...