Lesson Of The Day: My 2011 Year End Shoutout....

Keeping It Real: I have enjoyed meeting people online that I would have never met any other way. So, to you, I say, this is my end of the year shout out to the many "friends" I have never been in the same room with and to all my friends, family & associates who have inspired, amused, comforted, encouraged and touched me in so many ways. Here's to another year together! I love you and God Bless...Ya Dig?..

Lesson Of The Day: Resolute To Stop Making Resolutions....

Keeping It Real: Most of us NEVER keep them anyway! The BEST resolution any of us can make is to embrace who you are, what you are & do, who you do it with, where you do it at, how you do it & just truly enjoy the life you live and how look! Not one person is PERFECT, so embrace whatever imperfections you have and LOVE IT!!! Ya Dig?...

Lesson Of The Day: Listen.....

Keeping It Real: We were given two ears and one mouth. Maybe we were meant to listen more than we speak! Ya Dig?...

 

Lesson Of The Day: Men & Sex Toys...

Keeping It Real: Fellas, they are NOT meant to replace you, just meant to enhance what you are already doing! If a woman doesn't have a man, then THEY HELP OUT WONDERFULLY, seriously! LOL Even if she has man, toys are just that, TOYS! They are not meant to offend and or replace BUT sometimes, the enhancement is BETTER than some men! Toys are meant for that extra added pleasure! So fellas, the next time, your woman pulls out her toys, not only let her play with them, but you play with them too but with HER! Ya Dig?... 

Lesson Of The Day: WalMart Store & Discover Card

Keeping It Real: It is not WalMARK or DisCOVERY card! Ya Dig?...

Lesson Of The Day: Computer Strong....

Keeping It Real: It amazes me how a person who NEVER had a fight in their life OR was getting their ass kicked while in school OR who has always been a punk OR just a scary person PERIOD, can gather so much courage and heart sitting in front of their computer! 

I can see getting strong or hard with a person who you KNOW, you will NEVER CROSS PATHS WITH but a person locally, right in your area, who you may run into at any given time!!!

It would be really interesting to see you, pull out your computer or phone and get hard, if confronted in person by said person, you got strong with on the internet? Food for your MIND! Ya Dig?

Lesson Of The Day: Merry Christmas, Happy Kwanzaa & Happy Hanukkah

I wish you blessings abound and a Merry Christmas, Happy Kwanzaa, Happy Hanukkah or whichever manner you choose to celebrate this Holiday. I hope that it is filled with joy, love, peace, fun, family, friends and wonderful memories. 

Here's wishing you a very happy, healthy & safe Holiday! Ya Dig?...

Lesson Of The Day: Everybody KNOWS.....

Keeping It Real: Everybody KNOWS that Phaedra from Real Housewives Of Atlanta didn't make that damn saying/statement up! Ya Dig?...

Lesson Of The Day: Bowing Out Gracefully....

Keeping It Real: Don't be angry or upset when someone else starts to appreciate the person you took for granted. You can't make a person want you, so keep it moving! If it didn't work out between you all, there is someone for everybody! Learn how to bow out gracefully from relationships and other things in your life. What you won't do, someone else will. Food for thought! Ya Dig?...

Lesson Of The Day: The Holiday Season Is Approaching....

Keeping It Real: Time gets short .. nerves are frayed .. funds extinguished....I'd like to share with you, what was recently passed on to me.

"When we count our many blessings, it isn't hard to see, that Life's most valued treasures, are the treasures that are free. For it isn't what we own or buy, that signifies our wealth, it's the special gifts that have no price, our family, friends and health!"

I wish you blessings abound and a Merry Christmas, Happy Kwanzaa, Happy Hanukkah or whichever manner you choose to celebrate this holiday season, I hope that it is filled with joy, love, peace, fun, family, friends and wonderful memories.
 
Here’s wishing you a very happy, healthy and safe holiday season! Ya Dig?..

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Lesson Of The Day: Cynthia Bailey & Peter Thomas (Real Housewives Of ATL)

Keeping It Real: Ummmmm, what the hell is Peter's problem? How can he, as a husband sit back & watch his wife FAIL?  Kudos to her, she kept it moving WITHOUT him!

He wouldn't mail the invites for her and she has stood by side throughout it all!!! He left the event early, BECAUSE??????? Then he had the nerve to give an interview in Upscale Magazine and bad mouth the other women on the show? What, he trying to burn the bridge before she even gets to it? 

In my honest opinion, he is an ASSHOLE! Wait, I'm sorry, he isn't an asshole, he is the WHOLE ASS!!! 

Cynthia, he says he loves you, I guess he does! He loves to see you fail, he loves to bring animosity and discern between you & your family, he loves your money when the going gets tough for him, he loves that you are on HIS TEAM!! 

On the real, you should have been a RUNAWAY BRIDE! Ya Dig?...  

Lesson Of The Day: Oh, Because You Are Famous....

Keeping It Real: PLEASE quit using your "stardom" as a gateway to other avenues of entertainment! If you are an actor & KNOW YOU CAN'T SING, WHY TRY? Oh, because you are famous, it suddenly gave you a voice? If you are a singer & KNOW YOU CAN'T ACT, WHY TRY? Oh, because you are famous, it suddenly made you think you could win an Oscar? If you are an actor or singer & KNOW YOU CAN'T SPELL & ONLY book you ever was really interested in was the TV GUIDE, WHY WRITE A BOOK? Oh, because you are famous, you thought you would make book of the month list? 

I believe some celebrities use their status as a way of getting over on their fans! Just because you have made it in one area, doesn't mean you have the right to take advantage in another. Some celebs need to stay in their lanes! Ya Dig?...

Lesson Of The Day: Life Is A Gift....

Keeping It Real: Only a very few remember what life was like before, and who was always by their side in the most painful situations.

 

Today before you say an unkind word -Think of someone who can't speak.

 

Before you complain about the taste of your food - Think of someone who has nothing to eat.

 

Before you complain about your husband or wife - Think of someone who's crying out to GOD for a companion.

 

Today before you complain about life -Think of someone who went too early to heaven.

 

Before you complain about your children -Think of someone who desires children but they're barren.

 

Before you argue about your dirty house someone didn't clean or sweep - Think of the people who are living in the streets.

 

Before whining about the distance you drive Think of someone who walks the same distance with their feet.

 

And when you are tired and complain about your job -Think of the unemployed, the disabled, and those who wish they had your job.

 

But before you think of pointing the finger or condemning another - Remember that not one of us is without sin and we all answer to one MAKER.

 

And when depressing thoughts seem to get you down - Put a smile on your face and thank GOD you're alive and still around.  Ya Dig?.......

Lesson Of The Day: The Candy Cane & Jesus....

Keeping It Real: Do you know what a "Candy Cane Really is?" Many years ago a candy maker wanted to make candy that would symbolize the true meaning of Christmas - Which is "Jesus." The hard candy was shaped like a " J " to represent that Jesus is our rock of all ages. The candy was white, that stands for the pureness of Jesus, and the red represents the blood that Jesus shed to save us from our sins. So the next time you see a candy cane, take a minute to remember the real meaning of "Christmas." Ya Dig?.....

Lesson Of The Day: Monique Q Caradine's Black Woman’s Manifesto for 2012

Keeping It Real: Too many black women on TV appear to be making a concerted effort to hijack our image and set us back 850 years!

What the hell is going on? 

I’m talking about the reality show, so-called housewives of this, that and the other. Their frequent displays of violence and aggression, their obvious lack of self-esteem and their inability to show any semblance of adult-like behavior is downright embarrassing.

Yet, the criticisms of these displays, which should be coming from upstanding black women in our society, are either being ignored, are too rare or not being voiced loudly enough. Or, maybe these toxic displays have become accepted as the norm for black women. 

This is NOT okay! I say, enough is enough. It’s time to set a new standard for women everywhere. So I decided to draft the Black Woman’s Manifesto for 2012. It’s intended to be a working document with a few recommendations of how we as strong, proud, respectable, admirable, loving black women should conduct ourselves. Is this too much to ask?

1.) We will strive for better health—mentally, physically and spiritually. We will get therapy, coaching, training, counseling or whatever it takes so that the hurts of our past no longer hinder our future. We will work to achieve ultimate wholeness and healing in EVERY area of our lives so that our thoughts, words and actions become a true reflection of our GOD-like nature. We will elevate ourselves in an effort to command a new level of respect.

2.) As mothers, we will put the BEST interest of our children FIRST,especially as it relates to giving them the best education possible, spending quality time and creating a nurturing and affirming family environment. We will not leave them in situations where their safety and well-being might be jeopardized (i.e. with boyfriends or friends of friends or with crazy-ass relatives just because we can’t find a babysitter). We will see them as precious gifts, not burdens. We will lovingly prepare nutritious meals for them so that they will not rely on fast food. We will teach our girls to value themselves and raise our boys to be MEN. At our best, we will serve as the living example of the type of woman our sons would want to marry. Even when they become “difficult” or “defiant” we will protect our children at all costs and NEVER give up on them.

3.) We will absolutely NOT flirt with, lunch with, spend time with, share personal information with, engage in long conversation with or have sex with another woman’s husband, period! He is off limits no matter how smooth a talker he may be. We will show self-restraint and show respect for that wife and her marriage because we would want her to do the same for us. We will also stop holding every man accountable for the sins of our fathers who may have left us. It is not their fault that he may have been ill-equipped to prepare us for womanhood.

4.) We will raise our standards and level of expectation when it comes to relationships. We will only connect with men of high moral character. If he does not get along with his mother, we will either help him repair that relationship first or run in the opposite direction. We will STOP engaging in casual sex with multiple partners because that’s just nasty! Just because a man is “sexy” or has “swag” does not mean he deserves the very essence of who you are. Allow him to earn it. Challenge him to put a ring on it. Show him your value goes far beyond the bedroom. Your life depends on it and he will he be a better man if you do.

5.) We will vigorously protect our image in the media. When we see women on TV clowning and acting a damn fool, we will confront them, call them to the carpet and lovingly correct them. Nowadays, shaking our heads as we continue to watch the train wreck is not enough because these women are negatively influencing an entire generation.

6.) We will create a multiple-streams-of-income lifestyle. We will refuse to rely on one check from one job that is not guaranteed to be there for us tomorrow. We will establish businesses that give us the freedom to do what matters most and we will earn what we deserve. We will commit to tithing, saving, giving and systematically getting out of debt.

7.) We will ONLY speak words that give life. We will encourage, uplift, support, empower and inspire each other with our words. We will refuse to tear others down with rumors, gossip, lies, half-truths, violence, aggression, negativity or deceit. No longer will we say, “I’m broke, I’m not good enough, I’m too short, I’m too fat, I’m not pretty enough, I’m not smart enough…” We will recognize that our words have POWER and every word we speak is a seed being planted. We will NOT speak our current situation. Instead we will ONLY speak the reality that we deserve and desire thereby calling it into existence with our WORDS.

8.) We will lovingly forgive ourselves for bad decisions and stupid mistakes.The past is the past. We are still here. The lesson has been learned. It’s a new day. Move on and let your breakthrough overtake you!

9.) We will honor ourselves (and the God within us) everyday by acknowledging the authority that we have been given to change ANY situation. We will reclaim our role as cultural gatekeepers and we will be respected for our brilliance AND beauty on earth and in heaven. Ya Dig?...

Lesson Of The Day: People Running For President...

Keeping It Real: Ummmmmm, WHAT THE HELL????? We have so many goofballs, men & women, trying to throw their HATS into the next Presidential Election! Regardless of whomever RUNS, Obama GOT THIS!!! 2nd time around! Ya Dig?....

Twas The Night Before Driismas

Twas the night before Christmas, when all through the group, Not a member was stirring, not even for a bowl of Froot Loops. The stockings were hung by the chimney with care, In hopes that St Driis soon would be there. Member's children were nestled all snug in their beds, While visions of XBoxes, Baby Phat outfits danced in their heads. And Big Mama in her headscarf, and PawPaw in his doo-rag, Was arguing on Xmas' Eve, She called him an old bastard, he called her a hag.

When out on the lawn, louder than all their racket, PawPaw grabbed his shotgun and then his jacket. He ran to the front door and flew out in a flash, Missed the first step and went sliding down the rest on his ass.

He cussed and yelled as he went sliding on the ice, He got up and fell not once, but twice. When, what to his wondering eyes should appear, But a miniature sleigh and some of the group members.

With a Strong, British driver, so lively and remiss, He knew in a moment it must be St Driis. More rapid than rapper Twista words he came, And he whistled, and shouted, and called them by name!

Now Tonya, Now Debra, Now Robin and Natasha. On Karen, On April, On Missy and Pamela. On Kelly, On Christina, On Kaydy and Nechelle. Jump on top of the Buick, Bounce off the Escalade Now dash away, dash away.There are gifts to be gave.

As fumes of perfume, cologne and body mist floated thru the air, Mixed with weave glue and flat irons smells for the hair. So up to the house-top the members they flew, With a sleigh full of Goodies and St Driis too.

And then, in a twinkling, I heard up above, The pushing and clawing, then someone got shoved. As PawPaw came back in, and was turning around, Down the chimney St Driis came with a bound.

He was dressed in a T-shirt,J eans and one Timberland boot, He said other one was stucked up in the chimney with the ashes and soot. A garbage bag of Toys he had flung on his back, And he looked like a Thug from his attire, and started opening his pack.

His eyes-were red and low! his smile was real slick! He said 'wheres the milk and cookies?, while sucking on a toothpick! His cute little mouth was drawn up like a bow, When he said, Sheee'it, I am thirsty & hungry from saying ho, ho, ho!

The stump of a Black & Mild he held tight in his teeth, And the smoke it encircled his head like a wreath. He has a fine, handsome face and a tight, sexy ass body, He knows he has the look that can get any hottie!

He was a tall, dark, sexy looking elf, And I thought, I wouldn't mind hitting that, myself! A wink of his eye, lick of his lips and a twist of his head, Made me know St.Driis would be hellified and phenomenal in bed .

He didnt say another word, but sat his ass down in PawPaw's favorite chair, And yelled for the members to get their asses down there. He sat and watched them work, eating his cookies and milk, pulled out his Blackberry, then farted & told Big Mama to put on his new hit, Private Garden!

He said we be done here, to his namesake members, The Driisettes, gave a whistle, He turned to Ma and Pa, gave a wink and said you have just been “driisled”. But I heard him exclaim, as he drove away real fast, Merry Christmas to all Idris Elba club members and Driisette Divas, you all have much CLASS!

Lesson Of The Day: BUT Do You Go To Church?...

Keeping It Real: I was raised in the church. Father & 3 brothers are ordained ministers! I may not go to church like I used to and suppose to BUT I GO! I see so many people on Twitter, Myspace, Facebook & numerous social sites that speak so much about it! I say if you always speaking about, BE ABOUT IT! 

How many of u speak about, tweet about, talk about, blog about, write books about God & CHURCH BUT ACTUALLY GO TO CHURCH? 

Some folks I see, say what the Pastor has said in church on a Sunday but some folks, I see posting about God, constantly, even on SUNDAYS, what?, are they tweeting, posting & making comments on social sites in church? 

Again, I say, if you gonna always speak about, be about it as well! God doesn't want just your tweets, comments and posts, He wants you to SERVE & WORK for Him as well! Ya Dig?...

Lesson Of The Day: Momma Said....

Keeping It Real: My mother said, you TRAIN animals & you TEACH children & people! My momma said, KIDS are born to goats and people have CHILDREN! My momma said, you're so smart, you're dumb! My momma said, you can start it BUT I will finish it! My momma said, all Black people are not ignorant & dumb just like all White people are not smart! My momma said, 1+1 does not equal 3, dammit! My momma said, walk softly & carry a BIG stick and if they get out of order, beat the shit out 'em! My momma said, never be a Bully & never hit 1st but when touched, get their ass for old and new! Ya Dig?...

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Lesson Of The Day: I'm Not Happy Being Single....

Keeping It Real: If you're not happy single, then you'll never be happy in a relationship. Get your own life in order first and then when it is time to share, everything should work out fine! Don't Worry, Be Happy! Ya Dig?..

Lesson Of The Day: What?, You Thought He Would Change?

Keeping It Real: You knew he was a deadbeat daddy because he didn't take care of or have anything to do with the children he had BEFORE you got pregnant, what?, you thought he was gonna change?

You knew he beat on and whipped the women's asses he was with before you got in a relationship with him, what?, you thought he was gonna change?


You knew he was a womanizer, whorish and trifling before you made him your man, what?, you thought he was gonna change?

You knew he only cared about himself, pay no bills, doesn't do anything around the house or help with the children before you let him move in, what? you thought he was gonna change?


Mmmmmmmmm Hmmmmmmmmm Ya Dig?

Lesson Of The Day: Bible Talk....

Keeping It Real: God mad Apples, Adam bit, Noah arked, Abraham split, Joseph ruled, Jacob fooled, Bush talked, Moses balked, Pharaoh plagued, People walked, Sea divided, Tablets guided, Promise landed, Saul freaked, David peeked, Prophets warned, Jesus born, God Walked, Love talked, Anger crucified, Hope died,  Love rose, Spirit flamed, Word spread, God remained. May God Smile on you Today! Amen....Ya Dig?..
 

Lesson Of The Day: Smell Tales

Keeping It Real: There are certain smells you CANNOT hide & people will know right off the bat, what they are, such as any fried fish smell, funky underarms, unwashed coochie, Victoria Secret's Pear Lotion & Spray, Onions & Garlic, Pine Sol & Good Ol' Jolly Rancher Green Apple! Ya Dig?...

Lesson Of The Day: Some Lessons Of Life....

Keeping It Real: 

ONE. Give people more than they expect and do it cheerfully.

TWO. Marry a man/woman you love to talk to. As you get older, their conversational skills will be as important as any other.


THREE. Don't believe all you hear, spend all you have or sleep all you want.

FOUR. When you say, 'I love you,' mean it.

FIVE. When you say, 'I'm sorry,' look the person in the eye.
 
SIX. Be engaged at least six months before you get married.

SEVEN. Believe in love at first sight.

EIGHT. Never laugh at anyone's dreams. People who don't have dreams don't have much.

NINE. Love deeply and passionately. You might get hurt but it's the only way to live life completely.

TEN.. In disagreements, fight fairly. No name calling.

ELEVEN. Don't judge people by their relatives.

TWELVE. Talk slowly but think quickly.

THIRTEEN! .. When someone asks you a question you don't want to answer, smile and ask, 'Why do you want to know?'

FOURTEEN. Remember that great love and great achievements involve great risk.

FIFTEEN. Say 'bless you' when you hear someone sneeze.

SIXTEEN. When you lose, don't lose the lesson.

SEVENTEEN. Remember the three R's: Respect for self; Respect for others and Responsibility for all your actions.

EIGHTEEN. Don't let a little dispute injure a great friendship.

NINETEEN. When you realize you've made a mistake, take immediate steps to correct it.

TWENTY. Smile when picking up the phone. The caller will hear it in your voice

TWENTY- ONE. Spend some time alone. Ya Dig?

Lesson Of The Day: Twitter & Facebook Alerts

Keeping It Real: Correct me if I am wrong BUT FOLKS REALLY HAVE THEIR PHONES HOOKED UP TO BE ALERTED WHENEVER A PERSON POSTS, TWEET OR COMMENT? WHAT THE HELL???? I can understand MAYBE a business person trying to network BUT just a THIRSTY person with NO LIFE waiting on BEEP to see what has been said? Are you serious? All times of day & night, it could beep!!!! Four words for ya: GET A FUCKING LIFE! Ya Dig?...

Lesson Of The Day: Black Girls ROCK!!!

Keeping It Real: Yes we do, since the beginning of time! Harriet Tubman-escaped slave, Underground Railroad conductor, abolitionist, women's rights activist, spy, soldier. Sojourner Truth-lecturer, escaped slave, abolitionist, women's rights activist. Cicely Tyson-actress. Madam C J Walker-business executive, inventor. Ida B. Wells- journalist, activist. Oprah Winfrey-reporter, talk show host, business executive. Sarah Bartmann, Angela Davis, Coretta Scott King AND the list goes on and on...

You can find an ever-expanding list of resources for learning about famous African American women and other women of Black History. You'll find women who are famous and women who should be better-known, from early America and slavery to the 21st century, including the Harlem Renaissance and the civil rights movement here: http://womenshistory.about.com/od/africanamerican/a/black_women.htm Ya Dig?...

Lesson Of The Day: I Wish Him/Her The Best...

Keeping It Real: When you break up with your man/woman and you say I only want the BEST for him/her, ARE YOU SAYING, YOU WEREN'T THE BEST? mmmmm hmmmmm food for thought! Ya Dig?...

Lesson Of The Day: Child Support

Keeping It Real: I watched Real Housewives Of ATL last night and heard Sheree say, she didn't want to do anything RASH after 4 years of NOT GETTING any CHILD SUPPORT from her children's father who is an ex NFL player!  Phaedra, even told her it would be FREE services, just say the words: file it!

I have heard some women say it just isn't worth the hassle or I don't want to be bothered! I don't have time to file....I say, HOW SELFISH IS THAT? The very women who don't have the time to file can sit for hours waiting to get their hair & nails done but NO PATIENCE or TIME to file for something that is rightfully THEIR CHILDREN? Again, I say how selfish is that? The very women who say, I don't want to be bothered BUT STILL WILL LAY UP WITH THE DEADBEAT! The very women who say, it is too much of a hassle, BUT DAY IN & OUT, they are struggling trying to make ends meet! 

My ex took care of his children, I got child support and then some. To this day and they are adults, he still looks out for his children! Ya Dig?

Lesson Of The Day: God Sends Us Quiet Angels

Keeping It Real: I believe that God sends us quiet Angels who are true and real friends, that lift us to our feet, when our wings have trouble remembering how to fly! Ya Dig?

Lesson Of The Day: Mrs., Ms. & Miss Etiquette

Keeping It Real: For those of you, who do not know..MRS. mean married, MS. mean was married and now divorced or widowed, MISS mean never married & MZ. is some made up slang shit! Ya Dig?...

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Lesson Of The Day: Good Man, Good Woman

Keeping It Real: They say behind every GOOD man is a Good woman! WRRRRRRONG,  because a GOOD woman stands BESIDE her man and NOT BEHIND! Ya Dig?

 

 

Lesson Of The Day: The Meaning Of.....

Keeping It Real: Say what you mean and mean what you say, but you don't have to say it mean! Ya Dig?..